To go beyond oneself and become capable of thinking at least half for the feelings and happiness of others. That is the way it should be, and if the encounter with Shorinji Kempo should be a chance for such a self reform, then it is a good thing.
In Shorinji Kempo, our natural way of greeting each other when people meet begins from the gassho rei. Then you grab me, and I grab you and we each throw each other in turn. Amidst all this I want to grow in skill, but I also heartily wish for you to get better too, and so we each build up our progress.
Moreover, it is through such practice that we can maintain:
1. Awareness of the relation between self and other,
2. Awareness that while the self exists the other outside of oneself who is different in every way from the self exists also.
This awareness of the reality of human society seems so thoroughly familiar and yet one forgets it so quickly.
If your purpose in coming to Shorinji Kempo is simply from a desire to:
1. Learn weaponless combat
2. Brag about one’s physical power.
3. Learn a way of always winning fights
Then you shouldn’t be here anyway. If that alone is your goal, then Shorinji Kempo is not for you, and I recommend that you find another martial art.
It’s the desire to think of the benefit of others while thinking of the self, an autonomous way of life, no matter what it takes – people who think that way are welcome.